Single Girl (or Guy) Self-Love: How to Handle Valentine’s Day

As we all know, Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. The day some of you are completely indifferent to while some of you are dreading. You have no idea how many people I’ve overheard complaining about how they don’t have a date for Valentine’s Day, how they’ll never find a girlfriend or boyfriend, etc. People on dating apps rush to get with anyone who’s just as desperate as they are for a date, even if that person isn’t right for them. 

I’m here to tell you that it’s way, way better to be single than to waste your time and love on the wrong person (even for one night). If you feel miserable seeing happy couples as a single person, think about why that is. Do you really long for a relationship right now, or just the idea of it? And chances are, there’s a reason why you aren’t in a relationship right now. Maybe you’re too busy, not ready, or you have some things you need to sort through with yourself first. That is completely, unequivocally okay. It’s not just okay, but necessary. It’s so dumb that people are made to feel bad if they need time to stabilize, secure the bag, recover from hard times or grow as a person before they meet their match. There’s no point in making yourself even more miserable by rushing into something that’s premature or not meant to be for the sake of a contrived, commercialized, highly capitalistic holiday. If that’s what would make you happy, then go for it. But you have plenty of Valentine’s Days left in the future to find someone, if that’s what you choose to do. 

Being single on Valentine’s Day is the perfect opportunity to practice the self-care and self-love you deserve. Here are some tips to survive the holiday. If you want to show your love for other single people in your life, make plans with one or more close friends. Chances are they’ll appreciate the company. Treat yourself with things that relax you or make you happy. Meditation, a spa trip or candlelit rose petal bubble bath, Netflix binges, decaf coffee, chocolates, a good book, and your favorite music can all set the vibe for the night. Order your favorite food, look at memes for hours. Go nuts, it’s your life. While Brad and Becky are out there arguing over whether to go to Biaggi’s or Longhorn for dinner, you’re chillin’ in a blanket, burrito-style, watching Always Sunny, not giving a single hecking frig. And if you don’t have a car or don’t feel like going out you can spoil yourself like I do, with some exquisite Papa John’s cuisine. And hey girl, maybe that delivery boy is single.